“It has become something of a cliche´ to observe that if we do not love ourselves, we cannot love anyone else. This is true enough, but it is only part of the picture. If we do not love ourselves, it is almost impossible to believe fully that we are loved by someone else. It is almost impossible to accept love. It is almost impossible to receive love. No matter what our partner does to show the he or she cares, we do not experience the devotion as convincing because we do not feel lovable to ourselves.” Nathaniel Brandon, The psychology of Romantic Love

After all these years I still can’t spell phsychology phychology psycology psychology right without spell check - Elura



CAITLIN MORAN, We’re all dying

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Life drawing collections by Enchanting Elura <3 <3 (the last one is me heehee!)

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“Did it ever occur to you that it’s the same issue? The men who think that wealth comes from material resources and has no intellectual root or meaning, are the men who think- for the same reason- that sex is a physical capacity which functions independently of one’s mind, choice or code of values. They think that your body creates a desire and makes a choice for you just about in some such way as if iron ore transformed itself into railroad rails of its own volition. Love is blind, they say; sex is impervious to reason and mocks the power of all philosophers. But, in fact, a man’s sexual choice is the result and the sum of his fundemental convictions. Tell me what a man finds sexually attractive and I will tell you his entire philosophy of life. Show me the woman he sleeps with and I will tell you his valuation of himself. No matter what corruption he’s taught about the virtue of selflessness, sex is the most profoundly selfish of all acts, an act which he cannot perform for any motive but his own enjoyment- just try to think of performing it in a spirit of selfless charity!- an act which is not possible in self- abasement, only in self-exaltation , only in the confidence of being desired and being worthy of desire. it is an act that forces him to stand naked in the spirit, as well as in body, and to accept his real ego as the standard of value. He will always be attracted to the woman who reflects his deepest vision of himself, the woman whose surrender permits him to experience- or to fake- a sense of self-esteem. The man who is proudly certain of his own value, will want the highest type of woman he can find, the woman he admires, the strongest, the hardest to conquer- because only the possession of a heroine will give him the sense of an achievement, not the possession of a brainless slut. He does not seek to gain his value, he seeks to express it. There is no conflict between the standards of his mind and the desires of his body. But the man who is convinced of his own worthlessness will be drawn to a woman he despises- because she will reflect his own secret self, she will release him from that objective reality in which he is a fraud, she will give him a momentary illusion of his own value and a momentary escape from the moral code that damns him. Observe the ugly mess which most men make of their sex lives- and observe the mess of contradictions which they hold as their moral philosophy. One proceeds from the other. Love is our response to our highest values- and can be nothing else. let a man corrupt his values and his view of existence, let him that love is not self-enjoyment but self-denial, that virtue consist, not of pride, but of pity or pain or weakness or sacrifice, that the noblest love is born, not of admiration, but of charity, not to a response to values, but in response to flaws- and he will have cut himself in two. His body will not obey him, it will not respond, it will make him impotent toward the woman he professes to love and draw him to the lowest type of whore he can find. His body will always follow the ultimate logic of his deepest convictions; if he believes that flaws are values , he has damned existence as evil and only the evil will attract him. he has damned himself and he will feel that depravity is all he is worth of enjoying. He has equated virtue with pain and he will feel that vice is the only realm of pleasure. Then he will scream that his body has vicious desires of its own which his mind cannot conquer, that sex is a sin, that true love is pure emotion of the spirit. And then he will wonder why love brings him nothing but boredom, and sex- nothing but shame.” Ayn Rand, Atlas Shrugged, pg 452-453


“I’ve always resented the fact that when a cop drives by I feel paranoid instead of protected.”

— Buddy Wakefield  (via artistsuffer)

Seriously I got tailgated by a cop last night while I was driving 80 mph in the fast lane. Not pulled over, tailgated. So I had to speed up to pass the guy next to me so I can get in the other lane. Cop flies by around 90 mph only to tailgate the next dude in the fast lane. WTF

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jesushchuck said: I just looked at your blog because you liked my post. The post I read on your blog about men vs women oppression and victimization brought tears to my eyes. Thank you for being a nice person. The world needs more of us.

Thank you! And yes, the world needs more people who care. Your post sparked another issue that I’ve just started looking into, and now my brain is ticking away. How the LGBT community can be really hateful and judge towards each other. I had always thought they understood that human sexual preference and identity is a like a full spectrum rainbow. I’ve heard gay men bashing bi men, and drag queens bashing trans men. But maybe the hate comes from the society that is constantly judging them, so they are judgmental as well ? I’m not sure, still pondering it. Anyways, thanks for taking the time to read my post, I know it was a long one haha. 


Addressing those who like to argue with Feminist with this: Men are oppressed too, so women should stop crying about it, or whatever.

I admit, when I started to become aware of things that oppress men, such as being judged for their wallet, not being sociably accepted to express their emotions, getting laughed at for being a rape victim, no one believes them, there are no victim shelters that accept men. Most homeless shelters and charities help women and children, but not men. In emergencies it’s usually “Save the women and children,” but not the men. They have higher suicide rate than women and it progresses extensively as they age, a probable reason is that they are not encouraged to build strong relationships with family and have little support groups to deal with depression. 

So there is a lot of burdens men have to deal with, and when I found out about it, and started debunking some of your typical feminist viral statistics, and I did use this arguement. But alas, I always keep an open mind, so let me share what I believe now. 

Yes, there are feminist who hate men, and there are plenty of men out there who hate women. Ok, we live in a fucked up society. However, the assholes representing a group of people does not give your the right to stereotype people. It is not ok to call all Muslims extremist. It’s not ok to call catholics pedophiles. It’s not ok to be racist, it’s as simple as “All these people are just the same.” It’s not ok to dismiss a woman who is expressing herself by calling her an emotional whore. It’s not ok to dismiss a man who is going through emotional turmoil by telling him to man up!

So with that in mind, please judge a movement by what it stands for and not by the occasional assholes, and various opinions you have run into. I’d like to think that all these right’s groups are just sections for the overall humanitarian effort. The effort to achieve equality, health, and peace. All of the sections are just tackling separate problems to achieve world peace. Feminism is there to fight for the equality of women. Men’s right fights for men’s voices where they have been silenced. There are animal rights and the going green movement, since they have no voices to be heard in our politics, we must speak and fight for them. The problems that people face in a little village in India are not the same as the problems we face here. So we have red-cross, and so many charities to provide jobs, healthcare, sanitation, and education to underdeveloped civilizations. Don’t bash and stereotype a group for not tackling all of the worlds problems, we are all just trying to do our part, and solve one thing at a time. 

So back on feminism vs men’s oppression, there are just some things guys will just not understand. It’s annoying when I see someone trying to boost young girls self esteem and someone cries “Well how come they aren’t helping my son?” Well, that’s because there are two different reasons why a girl has low self esteem and why a boy would. I’ve gone over how men are burdened, and I know that through video games there are some unrealistic expectations in how a man is supposed to look and behave. The difference is men still don’t have to be ashamed for being men, and aren’t constantly being judged all the freaking time over every freaking detail. Men don’t know what it’s like to have to hide your face, your body, and contort your feet in ridiculous shoes so that she can not appear to be sloppy for work, only to be judged by more people as a whore. For every style that is available, women have to hear how they look like a whore or how they look stupid. And then someone says, “But girls judge each other like that all the time.” WOW I wonder fucking why???? Because it’s been drilled into our heads that we are going to be on the spotlight every time we step outside our homes, so it’s no freaking wonder shallow women do it to each other. We can’t be ourselves, we can’t be natural, we can’t be emotional without someone calling us a hysterical woman. Men constantly put us down, not intentionally, but our society has bred it to be this way, when they are ashamed of being anything like us. It’s a shame for them to be anything woman like, and it’s horrible. We also have plenty of women who do anything to show their masculine side just to be respected. We live in a society where the standard is masculinity, and it’s unfair for the men who have to conform to it, and for the other half of the human species who can NEVER be it. 

Of course, there are some things that do cross over, and the biggest one is rape. I get really mad at my fellow feminist who refuse to accept the information, or even the idea that maybe just as many men get raped as women. We forget that they get raped as children, in prisons, and in the military. When we’re not forgetting we are making jokes about it


As I mentioned before, there are no support groups, no victim shelters that help abused men. Below is a link to a site who helps with the healing process of victims, by allowing them to tell their survival story with quotes that they hold up. This one was dedicated to men, so if you are still skeptical or laughing, please take a look.


But for those of you who want us to use this as an excuse for feminist to not “cry” about it clearly have their priorities wrong. It’s basically saying “I’m suffering too, so you have to continue to suffer with me.” Or let’s just put an end to rape culture and progress to a society who takes these things seriously. Maybe when we live in a society that stops calling all victims liars, stops excusing rapist, stops making sexist and rape jokes, we’ll stop laughing at the men who get raped as well. 

As a humanitarian, I wish to see all oppression ends. I support feminism, men’s rights, animals rights, and going green. I see no reason for men and women to fight over something we all suffer from. 

This is the actual photo of my profile picture. Mushrooms I found while I was in Skagway, Alaska &lt;3

This is the actual photo of my profile picture. Mushrooms I found while I was in Skagway, Alaska <3


OK this is cute, but also exactly how I feel with the first coffee in the morning - MAGICAL!


OK this is cute, but also exactly how I feel with the first coffee in the morning - MAGICAL!


literally skipped about the last 20 pages of John Galt’s speech in Atlas Shrugged. Geez Ayn, can you be any more repetitive? Like, it’s no longer the character speaking, just Ayn ranting over and over and over. I actually like Galt’s character, but that kinda killed it for me. Skipped till that part ended just so I could get back to the story. 

squeeee how cute!!!

squeeee how cute!!!

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Just bought some candles to get the fall spirit going. Rustic Forrest, Pumpkin Spice, and mulled Cider &lt;3 &lt;3 &lt;3

Just bought some candles to get the fall spirit going. Rustic Forrest, Pumpkin Spice, and mulled Cider <3 <3 <3

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